I find ‘one-night stands’ liberating. There is something about losing your ambitions for a night, letting loose and letting the liquor take you where it may. If I don’t feel the need to stay in contact with my sexual conquests, that’s my prerogative.
“Are you guys still chatting!?” – a question every girl is asked by her bffls after a random hookup
By now you’d think I’d be used to the empathetic yet condescending response from my bitties “it’s ok babe, guys are such jerks” and I am! I honestly have no interest in carrying on meaningless conversation for a few days with a stranger I used for a good time.
Here is some simple math: talking = feelings = messy = thanks, but no thanks
Talking leads to feelings. When you get to know someone, you form an opinion of them. Doesn’t matter if you end up liking them or hating them… you now have feelings.
Feelings are messy. Good or bad, feelings about someone get messy. I don’t need the shame spiral that will inevitably come upon finding out Mr. Lastnight is a total loser just as much as I don’t care for the attachment that will come from learning he is hilarious, intelligent, and wealthy.
When I have fun with someone I want to just chalk it up to a win and leave it at that. Right now I’m not looking for anything serious but when the time comes that I am.. well I don’t plan on finding it drunk in a bar.
So I have with friend Kim and she is honestly the best. I met her about a year and a half ago which I am SO SO SO thankful for. I love the show private practice very much and I am glad I do because it taught me something about my friendship with Kim. Kim is my “anyways friend.” For anyone who doesn’t know what that means, it’s simple: doesn’t matter what happens or what she does, I’ll be her friend anyways. In September I moved away. I am not the kind of person that can maintain friendships with people who are far away from me, but for Kim I managed. I have to give a huge shout out to the creator of menshumor cause that is pretty much the foundation of our friendship.
cuddles – I have the best stuffed elephant for that (see photo)
texting about all the stupid things that happen to me throughout the day – I have the best girl friends in the whole world for that
nuff said, I miss nothing. Ellie and I will be fine sans beau
the bestest cuddle buddy in town
One of the saddest things, in my opinion, is when people jump into relationships young and stay in them. I mean power to you if you can fall in love (and stick with) your ‘high-school-sweetheart’ I’m really not trying to bash that. I just cannot fathom falling in love with someone in highschool and staying with them my whole life. I am speaking from personal experience when I say the kid I was back then is not the same person I am today. I have grown so much since I’ve graduated and I have changed a lot about myself. I truly believe your 20’s are for self development and figuring out who you are, heck maybe even part of your 30s’s! I’m not saying swear off love either. I just think you need to be confident with the person you are before you can commit yourself to someone else. I think many, too many, young people feel they need someone in their life to help them feel justified and important.
Dont grow into the person you think your significant other wants you to be (odds are it will happen subconsciously) BE YOUR OWN PERSON
Dont hold onto the person from the past. I bet you have both changed since you were teens. Are you in love with the person you are with right now, or are you in love with the person they were when you met?